Two years ago today, I was in a car on my way to see Jeremy and his family in Durban. I didn’t know the when or where of the get together. I just knew I was going to get to see my Jeremy.I knew from the first time I visited Jeremy, that he would one day become my husband. I knew he was going to ask me to marry him, I just wasn’t sure of the how and when. All I knew was that I was going to say yes.
Our journey to our engagement and wedding was not an easy one. A year prior to our engagement, Jeremy and I went through a very heartbreaking experience that nearly tore us apart. We allowed people and their opinions to overcome us. When we first wanted to get engaged, it was met with great opposition. We had done everything right, and still everything that could go wrong, went wrong and at the end of it, we were two very hurt young people. We chose to let the horrible experience go and press on to what we felt was right for us and our lives. We allowed each other some time to heal and get back to a good place as a individuals as we worked on our own relationship. Jeremy had expressed to me that he wanted to ask me to marry him (again), although we had often joked that I should be the one asking him. So our families got together at my childhood holiday spot in Umdloti, Durban.
I was a ball of nerves the whole 3 hour drive from Ladysmith to Durban. My heart pounded. My hands were sweaty. I was wondering if my hair was looking good. Did I wear the right clothes and shoes? Would my make up still look fresh by the time we got to Durban? I could only imagine how my Jeremy was feeling. What made the nerves worse was the fact that Jeremy and I weren’t chatting as he was flying in to Durbs and so his phone was off. Anyone who knows me, knows I don’t like surprises. I like to know what I’m going in to. No one in family would tell me where we were going to meet the Liberty’s – it drove me nuts. I even tried asking our driver where he was supposed to take us – he just said he was to follow my dad’s car (we were travelling in two cars).
As we drove passed all the “spots” I thought we’d meet, I started to get really nervous. Finally I clicked that we were driving to Umdloti. I started to look around very carefully to see if I could see Jeremy or his family – nothing. We drove into the parking lot which faced the ocean. I finally got a text from Jeremy which said, “Wait in the car”. Seriously? Wait in the car.
My family all made their way across the road to a restaurant. I watched them walk up the stairs to the top level – still no sight of Jeremy. I slowly got out the car and as I did, I was hit with a gust of wind. Immediately I thought, I’m wearing the wrong shoes (I had HIGH heeled boots on) and a dress. I turned around to try get my hair our of my face. As I looked up, I saw him. There was my handsome man walking towards me. It felt like I was meeting him for the first time al over again. All I could do was smile broadly and hope my dress didn’t lift up in the wind when I hugged him.
As we came face to face, we just hugged. I could feel his heart beating through his clothes. I’m pretty sure he could feel mine too. There was a moment where we just looked at each other and then laughed. All the emotions and build up drifted away. It was just us. No one else mattered. He took my hand and asked me to walk with him. As we approached the beach, I started to laugh. How was I going to walk on the sand in these high heels? Jeremy held me around the waist and took me a few steps before he stopped and turned to face me.
This was the moment. I could tell he was nervous. This was a special moment for us. Finally we were moving forward to what we wanted. He pulled me closer, one hand around my waist, the other holding my hair out of my face (the wind was blowing really hard). He told me how much he loved me and how he wanted to have me in his life always. He took a step back and pulled out a little black box. He slowly opened it. The sun hit the ring and it sparkled brightly – it was so beautiful. He asked me if I would marry him. I said yes (of course) and then promptly shouted out (while doing a fist pump in the air) – IT’S ABOUT TIME! We both laughed and he placed the ring on my finger. We laughed, hugged and kissed. Slowly we made our way to the restaurant to celebrate with our families.
How we both appreciated reaching the moment where we could say we were engaged. It was a part of our dream that had come true. The long days and lonely nights, the long distance and many hours we had to spend on the phone were worth it. The joy of celebrating as we took a step in the right direction made everything we had been facing worth it.
I am so happy I met Jeremy and said yes to being his wife. My life has become a great adventure with him. I am 100% loved, accepted and supported by him. So glad he asked me to be his Mrs. Liberty!
True love exists. There is a right person for you. Don’t give up on finding your special person, instead focus on becoming the best you that you can be. They will appreciate it! Keep your true love dream alive.
From my heart to yours